- Economic conditions:
Are we the angry generation?
Saturday 30 September 2017
Spirited women in unconventional careers!
Friday 22 September 2017
Dear Ma...
Wednesday 20 September 2017
No expectations..key to happiness!
- Professional independence:
Saturday 16 September 2017
I am changing!!
Days slip into weeks, weeks turn into months and months transform into years. *Calendars are changing and so am I*.
*Yes, I am changing*. In certain things age has mellowed me down, in others I have become more aggressive . Sometimes I find myself acting very wisely and sometimes I just go crazy. Certain issues will have me speaking vociferously whereas at other issues I just shrug and remain silent.
*Yes, I am changing!* After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.
*Yes, I am changing*. I just realised that I am not “ Atlas ” and the world does not rest on my shoulders.
*Yes, I am changing*. I have now stopped bargaining with the poor vegetable and fruit vendors. After all, a few rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
*Yes, I am changing*. I pay the auto wallah / cab wallah and walk away without waiting for the change.The extra money might bring a smile on his face.After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.
*Yes, I am changing*. I have stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that story many a times.After all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.
*Yes, I am changing*. I have learnt not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. After all ,the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me.Peace is more precious than perfection.
*Yes, I am changing*. I give compliments freely and generously now . After all its a mood enhancer not only for the recipient but also for me.
*Yes, I am changing*.I have learnt not to bother about my creased shirt. After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.
*Yes, I am changing.* Nowadays I don't bother if fine lines are showing on my forehead. After all beauty of my soul outshines the beauty of my face.
*Yes, I am changing*. I am learning not to let others make me feel incompetent.After all I am not only what they see in me. I might not be good at certain things but I am excellent at others.
*Yes, I am changing*. I walk away from people who don't value me.After all, they might not know my worth, but I do.
*Yes, I am changing*. I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race.After all I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.
*Yes, I am changing*. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. After all it's my emotions that make me human.
*Yes, I am changing*. I now tell people if I like them.After all ,there is nothing wrong in liking someone.
*Yes, I am changing*. I demand for whatever is due to me.After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice.
*Yes, I am changing*. I have learnt to live each day as it were the last.After all, it might be the last .
*Yes, I am changing*. I am doing what makes me happy.After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.
*And I am loving the new me!*
A 'live-in' relationship..why not?
Married couples share responsibilities of their families, finances, and societal duties. They are always striving to maintain a satisfactory balance in the society. In a live-in relationship, you can share and divide your expenses. There lies no pressure of pleasing relatives and parents, and one can enjoy their personal space.
2. Low legal hassles
Divorce is an ugly possibility of marital ending, which can be a bitter and traumatic experience. Live-in relationship gives you an emotional advantage. Handling a breakup is definitely easier than going through the trauma of a messy divorce.
Marriage brings in the added responsibility of maintaining joint financial ventures and dual banking operations for ease of spending.
A person can pretend to be someone that they are not when they meet you occasionally (during your courtship period), but no one can pretend or hide their true personality 24x7.
In a live-in relationship both partners are truly equal, whether it is in their freedom or in their insecurities. Both of them know that the door is always open; so they will always make extra efforts to make their partner feel secure in the relationship. This would also tell you how loyal, compatible and trustworthy your partner is.
Sunday 10 September 2017
Raising compassionate children
After all, we are responsible for our own words and actions, and not that of others!
Friday 8 September 2017
Household Chores As Kids=>Successful Adults
I remember my mother, a homemaker, working tirelessly to finish all household tasks single handedly. She would never let me do any chores, which even included my own work like packing my school bag till I was 10 or packing my lunchbox, etc. You too, probably; should be having similar memories of your childhood.
No wonder we and our significant better halves too, find household chores to be boring and painstaking. We find excuses to avoid them or blame each other for not being of help at home.
Perhaps, the way we were all raised is to be examined. A significant finding in Harvard Study lately, showed a connection between household chores and success. The findings indicated that children need to be engaged in household chores early on in their lives, for making them independent and successful in lives.
Success, is always a relative term. Here it indicates both, personal and professional success.. basically happy adults!
It's too late to turn the clock and do something about our childhood now, but we surely can avoid repeating the same mistakes our parents did. Here's how chores can add value to your child:
It gives your child an edge to excel at work in future:
If you allot 3-4 tasks to your kid each day, he needs to decide as to which one is more urgent, which needs for him to step out, may be to shop, time needed for each tasks,etc. In other words, he learns to take decisions based on priority. He learns to divide his time, so as to complete each task on time. We all know, he would need these qualities both at work and at home in future.
It allows them to be independent and learn to handle responsibilities:
As already mentioned, decision making is one of the skills your child learns by doing chores. Incase of any family crisis, where you are alone or say, you not keeping well for a few days, wouldn't it be better that you kid is atleast able to make his own breakfast? After all, not all of us are lucky to have the support of our parents or maids.
Chores, thus help your kid to be more independent and ready for any situation.
Better equipped to do unpleasant tasks:
A simple chore like changing the garbage bags or putting out the dustbin daily, allows your kid to learn that it's ok to do tasks, seemingly dirty. A mother isnt the only designated person who is supposed to deal with every chore, even the dirty ones.
There would be a lot of dirty roads your child may have to travel alone and difficult people to deal with in his life. So why not start young?
They have a better understanding of sharing and collaboration:
Collaboration is an art, whether at home or work and not all of us find it easy. If you have more than one child, a proper distribution of chores amongst them, where they need to mutually decide and complete a task, increases sharing and teaches them the art of collaboration at a young age.
It takes some load off your shoulders too:
By allocating certain easy chores for your child to handle, you can get some time for yourself. You may choose to use this time constructively to do the things you always wanted to but cudnt find time to do them.
So what are you thinking?
Depending on their age, you can decide the chores your kids can successfully complete. You need to train them to do the chores you want to at the beginning. You can choose to reward them by allocating financial targets with the completion of each chore.(many may beg to differ on the merit of this point).
I believe, rewarding on completion of a chore is a form of appreciation and better than promising your kid a toy/a movie if he performs well in his exams. Try a different approach!
Self learning is the best form of learning and household chores makes your child learn more on his own. So, the sooner they start, the better. Help your kids learn and grow!